Tuesday, May 17, 2011

I'm back


Hello, so I think I needed some time to evaluate what I was doing here, and I guess I have been busy, too. Here are some updates. My Uncle Elbert passed away right after Thanksgiving, and hubby and I went to the funeral. It was my first funeral. I got to see some family that I had just seen at a cousin's wedding, and it reminded me of that old saying about weddings and funerals. My friend with the 5 kids is expecting number 6. She's still fecund, I guess not while she is pregnant, though. We got rid of the convertible! :) That toe, it did not get better for a while, and I got really sick because of it. I am better now. Hubby and I went to Scotland! It was fun to be alone together. We did not go on a tour, we just had our own schedule, and I got to see where some of my ancestors may have walked. Oh, and that dress, the hem came out at the dry cleaners. I guess I might tape it again, unless I can find someone to "blind" hem it for me.

So I guess what I want to do is maybe help anyone out there who has some troubles like me, or maybe get some help from some people who have been through this. Marriage is difficult sometimes. I don't mean give up difficult, although I have felt that way, I just mean, the two of us are not peas in a pod. We don't think a like; we don't always want the same things. We have three kids, so you have to throw that in the mix, too. We have friends and obligations. It's hard to get it all done and do it right. In the last week, I have had two reminders of the best way to take care of these things. Actually, the theory was the same, it just came from 2 different sources. How should we prioritize things? God is first, then husband, then kids. Wow! It sounds simple, but it isn't all that easy, especially when the kids need you. They need you to get breakfast in the morning. They need you to take them places. They need you to read to them; help with schoolwork. They need your attention, but so does your husband. He needs my attention. He needs to feel special, and it's hard when there are three others vying for number one.

What about the one that is supposed to come first? How easy is that? I read my Bible and pray first thing in the morning, but I don't think that really counts as putting God first. I think it might be a good start, but I am not sure that it is all God wants. My mom used to do this demonstration with walnuts in the shell, rice and 2 Tang jars. If you put the rice (the little things) in the jar first, you could not fit the walnuts in, but if you put the walnuts (God) in first, then pour the rice over it, it fit perfectly. That's what I want. The fitting perfectly. Any ideas?